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Written by Gayle Nobel   
Thursday, 26 August 2010 10:43

Blog-a-thon Day 31

I made it! I wanted to see if I could blog everyday for a month and it seems I can. I think it takes at least that long to create a habit.  Time plus commitment.. isn't that how it always is?

It has been so wonderful hearing from my readers. I have a heart to heart connection with so many people. That's another one of the gifts of having a special child. When you encounter someone on a similar path, you can't help but connect.

I want to thank everyone for reading, sending me comments and cheering me on. You all inspire me to keep writing and sharing. And as I've said before,  you will still be hearing from me just not quite as often.

In celebration of the end of my "blog-a-thon" and in gratitude for my readers, I have a special offer.

For the next two weeks, that would be until September 9, with any purchase of "Breathe" or my first book, "It's All About Attitude" you will receive a "Breathe" inspirational print absolutely FREE! The prints normally sell for $15.00. 

I am excited to be able to make this offer. I have 6 different prints available from "Breathe". They are black and white, 6 x 9 on a 9 x 12 card stock and absolutely gorgeous! I know, I know, I'm shameless today. Personally, I use them to remind myself to slow down and you guessed it, "Breathe". They also make wonderful gifts and look incredible in a black or white frame. 

How do you participate and what do the pictures look like? See ZEN  (one of my favorites, taken in  Croatia).  Click HERE, then scroll down, and you will see all 6 pictures. Order either book off my website OR by calling the number on the website. There is a place to send a comment when placing the order. Indicate there that you are a blog reader and which picture you would like. It's that simple.

Keep scrolling, "Reaching Life's Summits" is below Zen. 

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In "Breathe" I wrote a lot about how this journey of living with autism (or whatever flavor your challenge is) is like climbing a mountain. Scott Dinsmore, in his blog from www.ReadingForYourSuccess.com shares a great guide to "Reaching Life's Summits".    Enjoy!

“The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” ~Confucius

How can a mountain better prepare us for life? At over 14,000 feet, there’s more to learn than I would have thought.

Last week I sat on top of Mt. Shasta, a 14,179 foot mountain in Northern California. It was my first real summit and I was proud. Getting there took me through two days of snow, ice and below-freezing camping conditions, using crampons, an ice axe, and more layers than I thought I owned.

As I climbed, and especially on my way down, I began to realize the lessons required to reach the top and make it back down safely. As it turns out, the most important rules are just as relevant in the snow as they are in conquering our everyday challenges.

When was the last time you reached a mountain summit, whether outdoors or in life?

We face our own mountains everyday. Some small. Some big. There’s always a summit we want to reach. Maybe it’s running those few miles before work, making that intimidating sales call, or running your business. Goals, no matter the size, require a strategy for success.

A cold tall mountain reinforced an approach that can convert life’s everyday challenges into gratifying accomplishments.

A Guide to Reaching Life’s Summits


Pack light. I wish I took this more seriously. Every unnecessary piece of gear complicates things and detracts from the experience. Aside from the bare necessities, things do not make life better. They often cause more stress and keep you from what’s most important. The lighter your pack the better. Life is too short to be burdened with excessive possessions, emotional baggage or regrets. Positive thoughts, relationships and experiences weigh nothing at all. Pile them on and leave the rest behind. They’ll lift you to the top.


Take one step at a time. Any major accomplishment can be broken down into a series of single steps. My pattern for the mountain was 15 steps up, 15 breaths of rest. I did that for 7 hours. If I would have only focused on the very top, frustration would have overcome me. If your summit is too intimidating, break it into smaller steps. Focus on those one by one. Eventually one step will be the one that puts you on top.

Don’t go at it alone. When climbing, a partner is a must. For safety, support, camaraderie, motivation and simply to share the journey. You’d be silly (and putting yourself in great danger) to go up alone. Life is meant to be experienced with others. It makes the valleys shallower and the peaks higher. Relationships magnify experiences and help you do things that prove impossible alone. Don’t leave home without your support team.


Listen to the experts. Halfway up, a passing guide told us if we couldn’t get to the top by 12:30 at the latest, then to turn back. Chances of late day thunderstorms were too great. As amateurs we would have had no idea. While we all ought to experience our own paths, it’s foolish not to learn from and observe the guidance of experts. Choose your life models wisely and keep them close by on your journey.

Slow down. As Yvon Chouinard of Patagonia says, “It’s about how you got there. Not what you’ve accomplished.” Despite what colleagues and competitors may tell you, there is no rush. Rushing on the mountain risks slipping, not acclimating to thinning air, exhaustion and possibly death. In life the biggest risk is that you miss the wonders of everyday experiences in your pursuit to the top. The top is secondary to the process.

Look back and take in the view. There’s never any guarantee that you’ll get to the top, but you always have the ability to stop, take in a deep breath, smile and enjoy the view-whether it’s miles of wilderness or two feet of fog. It’s all wonderful. Every moment of life is a new view to appreciate.

Save some energy for the trip down.
We thought the summit was “just over that peak” half a dozen times before it actually was. Conserve energy. Things will inevitably take longer than expected. Don’t be discouraged. Budget your capital, energy and drive appropriately. Rarely is anything in life an all out sprint. Treat it like a marathon. You may need your reserves when you least expect it.

Getting to the top is optional. Getting down is mandatory. These are Ed Viesturs’ famous words; the first U.S. man to summit all 14 peaks above 8,000 meters with no bottled oxygen. The summit will be there tomorrow and likely so will yours. If more planning, a stronger team or more support is required, then save the summit for a time when the payout is safer and more probable. If you are outmatched, know when to turn back, only to return stronger and more savvy tomorrow. Stay objective and don’t let short-term excitement get in the way of long-term fulfillment.

Failure is a part of the process. If we would have started our climb the week before, conditions would have been too grave to make it. Be ok with not reaching the summit every time. Falling short is inevitable. You will never learn more than from your failures…at anything. Embrace them.


A daunting summit is nothing more than a challenge. A challenge is simply an opportunity in disguise. You won’t summit every one you come across, but you will become a better person with each attempt.

There will always be another mountain. You are not meant to conquer them all. Past summits are simply preparing you for the next. With the right strategy, you’ll put the top within reach. When your summit arrives, you will be ready.

“It is not the mountains we conquer but ourselves.” ~Sir Edmund Hillary

Last Updated on Thursday, 26 August 2010 11:34
 
Stop, Drop, & Read PDF Print E-mail
Written by Gayle Nobel   
Wednesday, 25 August 2010 16:15

Blog-a-thon Day 30

The blog-a-thon finish line is clearly in sight. But don't worry, I will still be jogging... I mean, blogging.

Some people like to read the endings of books before they read the book. Are you one of those people? I'm not, though I do confess to skimming to the heart of a book once in awhile, especially  non-fiction books.

If you have not yet read "Breathe", today you get to skip to the end and read the last chapter. I was a little hesitant to give it away but ended up doing it anyway because it seemed to fit the topic I was asked to write about. In reality, it is not really an ending anyway, but just another beginning.

 I was invited to be a guest blogger on "Stop, Drop, and Read". I know, I know, it doesn't seem like I really fit there but there I am. Diana Dang has a fun and unique blog worth checking into. She likes to be diverse so there is something for everyone. 

 The topic was "post high school". This is a golden opportunity to sample a piece from "Breathe" minus the inspirational photo that goes  with it. If it moves you, pass it on.

Stop, Drop, & Read 

P.S. When you get there, you may need to give the wallpaper a chance to clear before you can begin reading. AND, just below the blog is an interview with me from April 2009.

 

Last Updated on Wednesday, 25 August 2010 16:31
 
Put Your Heart on Paper PDF Print E-mail
Written by Gayle Nobel   
Tuesday, 24 August 2010 13:32

Blog-a-thon Day  29

The responses I received to yesterday's video of Kyle at the piano have been heart-warming. Facebook, email, my next door neighbor... everyone was touched. Most people have not seen this part of Kyle. They do not know his ability to connect because he does not connect in the usual, more noticeable ways. His abilities are hidden when you see him walking down the street. Isn't that true, to some extent, of most of us?

The fun thing about this blog is you never know what posts are going to move people. By yesterday's response, it seems maybe I should post more personal videos. Ha!  Don't worry... I won't overdo this. But from time to time, perhaps I will share what Kyle and I are up to. I'm hoping to have some special moments at Rachel's fast approaching November wedding.  So do stay tuned. 

I have had many people tell me they will miss this daily blog-a-thon. I will miss it too. I love writing and gathering up inspiration. As I offer food for your souls, dear readers, I am feeding my own. Don't worry, you will still be hearing from me. And, I may do another blog-a-thon sometime in the future (not November Wink).

Speaking of daily writing, if you have read Breathe, you know I talk a lot about journaling in several different formats. I have had an on and off relationship with my journals for many years now. Writing is truly theraputic and when I am not journaling, I feel like I am missing something. Sometimes, it just feels hard to make the time for it and other endeavors take priority.

With blogging (public journaling, in a way), my private journals have been collecting a bit of dust. I am always inspired by Kathy (my good friend & coauthor) in this area because she always seems to make time for her journal. I think we started together in 1994 or so and she has been going strong ever since.

Someone was sharing with me recently that they have trouble knowing what to write when they "try" to journal. Of course, my answer is, "write anything, whatever pops into your mind." This is too loosey, goosey for some so I am going to share with you some starter journal questions. Just in case you have been wanting to try journaling, here's a platform from which  to launch.

I did not make up the first four questions, I got them from a book. However, it has been so long ago, I don't remember which one.

When I use these, I try to answer all of them, though of course, there are no rules. It's fun to look back on entries in years to come and there is always something to learn about yourself especially if you answer them over time (stagnation, growth, you name it).

1- What did you notice today that wasn't about you... had nothing to do with you? (Often this is things of beauty in nature.)

2- What did you do to help support someone else? (Fun to do anonymously)

3- How did you show respect for yourself?

4- What didn't you like today, were unhappy about, was an issue for you, or brought something up for you?

5- What are you grateful for today?

6- Serendipity... Did G-d wink at you through a serendipitious moment? When and how?

Have fun playing with these. And if you are going to play seriously, go get a beautiful journal and special pen for extra motivation.

What do ya think?

PS.. this beautiful video just came into my email box and I can't resist. 

"Each child possesses his own unique package of gifts." Raising Small Souls 

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 24 August 2010 14:07
 
Piano Moments PDF Print E-mail
Written by Gayle Nobel   
Monday, 23 August 2010 13:04

Blog-a-thon Day 28

Just 4 more days for this blog-a-thon and I will have met my goal to blog every day for a month. This was my own personal goal when I started blogging 28 days ago. I would love to be able to continue, but I am starting a new marketing campaign for "Breathe" and want to spend a little more time with that.

I will still be blogging after that, just not every day. I will probably re-establish the monthly Living with Attitude E-letter with a much shorter format than before. 

Today I am going to be sharing a short video clip of me and Kyle at the piano. Maybe some of you have been curious about Kyle. So now you get a chance to see him in action.

Click here to view. Read below for my commentary. 

I try to spend time with Kyle at the piano as often as I can. It's something we both enjoy. It is also a great way to sneak in some "therapy" for Kyle. 

There are so many things going on here with both of us. For those of you who have known Kyle for a long time, you can see he has come quite a long way from the old days.

My main intention here is to share an enjoyable experience with Kyle. That in itself, is therapy because experience sharing does not come easily for him. I also want to give him a competent role in this interaction. As you can see, Kyle's body and focus can be an obstacle to his participation. He is still able to participate but he works pretty hard to do it. You will also notice I don't talk a lot. Sometimes words get in the way. Also, if I was playing a duet with a friend, the natural tendency would be not to talk but to focus on the music and the connection between us.  I want Kyle to listen for the pauses in the music and natural cues from me to know when it's time for him to come in. I don't tell him when to go, I allow him to use his "thinking" muscles to figure that out. Sometimes, he needs a little physical support to participate. I attempt to give as little as possible but just enough when I think he needs it.

When it comes to singing, sometimes Kyle just can't help himself. As for me, it's better that I don't sing. :-) My daughter Leah did not inherit her talent from me. 

This session went on for about forty minutes. (Don't worry, the clip is under two :-) ). For Kyle to spend that long paying attention and participating in an activity is quite an accomplishment.  

Any comments? I always love to hear from my readers.  

Last Updated on Monday, 23 August 2010 13:38
 
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